When you have a difficult family member it's an opportunity to be rewarded by practicing patience

When you have a difficult family member it's an opportunity to be rewarded by practicing patience, overlooking their shortcomings and being kind to people who act childishly. 

It builds character not to react in the same way as people who mistreated you, but to be honorable and dignified. 

Practice self-restraint when dealing with difficult people. I know it's tempting to tell them off or treat them in the same way they treated you, but when you keep Allah in mind you will be focused on getting the best character grade from Him and not to succumb to your base desire of acting impulsively. 

Allah sees who is oppressive and who is God conscious. 

Allah sees who is fair and who is greedy.

Allah sees who is compassionate and who selfish.

All that really matters is that Allah knows. 

Note: I'm not saying in any way to tolerate abuse. 

Ajer=reward 

You're rewarded when you do good despite the rude behavior of others.

Give examples of times when you had a difficult person in your life and you chose to be the bigger person.

-I kept holding them, for so long, because i thought may be, after my many endeavours, or struggles

-I kept holding them, for so long, because i thought may be, after my many endeavours, or struggles, this time everything would get better, but naaaahh! they disappointed me again, and again, and here i was crying thinking why is it happening to me? why always me?

then out of a sudden, i saw an anonymous quote, which goes as, 

//"agar rishta bachaane ke liye jhukna pare to jhuk jao,

-magar baar baar apko jhukna pare to ruk jao."🍁

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Me hr rishte ko bachane ke liye itna jhuki ke dill thak chuka hai, hr shae se yaqeen uth sa gaya hai but that was the moment when i realized that, i have to stop making efforts for them, and would not bother them again.

From loving you,to loving you this deep intense..Now you becomes my breath

From loving you,to loving you this deep intense..Now you becomes my breath

I am fully addicted and the addiction is the one and only you..i started loosing my self and slowly becoming you..Your love is something which gives me power..Even the little glimpse of your face makes my mood happy..You stole my heart..And makes it all yours..

 Now i cant escape from your thoughts and infact i don't want to..

 Your love filled my life like the colour's of rainbow make's sky more Alluring..The world is being suspicious that why the girl is losted,and stops her sttuborness...But i and you,only we both knows the reason that the first day when you enters in my life it becomes more and more beautiful..From each passing day my heart fills with more love..Which is only for you only for you..."💙

Forgiveness means doing the work necessary to process and understand the feelings of pain

🌼 Forgiveness means doing the work necessary to process and understand the feelings of pain from an experience, allowing it to move through you, then coming out the other side ready to forgive but not forget.

🌼 Forgiveness is something you do for yourself.

Remember that forgiveness doesn't mean you have to tell the other person that you forgive them.

🌼 You forgive to set yourself and your heart free, and this does not mean you have to re-establish a relationship.

🌼 You absolutely do not have to let them back into your life.

🌼 Forgiveness does not mean forgetting.

It also does not mean what happened was okay.

🌼Forgiveness sets you free from the trauma and the other person.

🌼 Forgiveness is for you not the other person.

🌼 Forgiveness gives you your power, and love for yourself and your life back

🌼 Forgiveness means you have all the teachings you need from the experience and now you're living life fully alive and free.

Can we please stop associating being a good person

Can we please stop associating being a good person with how much you're willing to suffer in silence for other people? 

You can be a kind person and still say "no, I don't have the time/energy to help you with that." 

You can be a kind person and still say "this makes me uncomfortable, please stop." 

You can be a kind person and still say "I disagree and here's why." 

You can be kind and still say "I'm not okay with this." Being kind is about treating people with kindness and respect, not about being the human equivalent of a doormat.

تیرا پیار, جیسے گلاب تھا

Try reading this without a smile, 

Wait for the End 🥀

تیرا     پیار,   جیسے  گلاب  تھا 

جو   کبھی  کھلاِ  تھا، چمن   میں میرے 

وہ لال   رنگ جسے   دیکھ  کر 

دل لہو لہان،  ہو کہ رہ گیا 

  

جس  کے  عطر  سے،  یہ  میرا  جہاں 

مدہوش  خوشبو  سے  مہک  گیا 

تھے    پھول  کتنے  ہی  رنگ  برنگ 

لہلا  رہے  نظر  میں  میرے 

مگر،  ایک  وہی  گلاب  تھا 

جو دل ِ   باغ  میں  گھر کر گیا 

 

پر  وہ  پھول  جب  مرجھا  گیا 

ُاس  کی  َپتیوں  نے  ِاسی  باغ  کو 

گویا   قبرستان  اک  بنا  دیا 

جہاں   دفن   ہے   اب  اک  داستان 

وہ  داستاں  تیرے  عشق   کی 

جو  تھی  رواں ہر  لب  پہ کبھی 

جوتھی    موضوعِ   گفتگو   ابھی 

وہ قصہ ، حافظے   سے بھی  مٹ گیا 

اب  تو  باقی   ہے   کانٹا   گلاب   کا 

جو  تیری  یاد  کے  ،  قہر  کی   طرح  

ُاسی  دل میں  ، چبھ  کر  ہے  رہ   گیا 

جس  دل   میں   رہتے  تم     کبھی 

جو دل،    کبھی  تھا   تیرا   آشیاں 

وہ  دل  جو  تھا!  تیرا  سارا  جہاں 

اس  دل کی  خستہ  دہلیز   پر 

تختی ہے ، اب بھی  تیرے  نام  کی

جو شاید !   اب، تا عمر بھر 

کسی  اور  کو، یہاں  بسنے نہ دے

زبان سے معاف کرنے میں وقت نہیں لگتا

☜زبان سے معاف کرنے میں وقت نہیں لگتا مگر دل سے معاف کرنے میں عمریں بیت جاتی ہیں "

زبان کا استعمال سوچ سمجھ کر کیا کیجئے" 

دل کی عدالت سے ہر کوئی اتنی آسانی سے باعزت بری نہیں ہوپاتا۔!!!

The night is getting deeper & deeper and the stars have fallen aslee

The night is getting deeper & deeper and the stars have fallen asleep . People around me has fallen asleep too but my eyes are reluctant to fall asleep as it has been for the last 4 months. I have this feeling that my life has been very hard & unfair for me for the last 120 days, tough circumstances have triggered me into self-doubt and despair. I don't know where to go or even who i am. Everything seems confusing and scary. It is hard to see myself being successful, loved, or healthy again. All i m able to c is current unfortunate life situation. I am about to shed tears but meanwhile deep within the endocardium of my ventricles a strong voice is coming which says my dearest self whenever you face trials of any kind it provides u with opportunities to discover who you are meant to be and what u can share of ur gifts to benefit others. Yes the storms is all of a sudden. But Instead of being paralyzed by the uncertainty plx decide to continue being the best u can be , the shock will wear off, the fog is about to dissipate & happiness is still within ur reach. My dear self clarity is arriving gradually. 1day the fog at the beach will eventually be lifted & all the pieces of the puzzle will fall into place to tell u that there was a meaning in what happened to u.  The fog at the beach will eventually be lifted.

کوئی بھی شحص کسی دوسرے کی جگہ کو نہیں بھر سکتا

کوئی بھی شحص کسی دوسرے کی جگہ کو نہیں بھر سکتا، دلوں میں جگہیں بھی فنگر پرنٹس کی طرح ہوتی ہیں جو کبھی کسی سے میچ نہیں ہوتی۔

I think why we wish to be a grown flower in desert?

I think why we wish to be a grown flower in desert?

Why are we  always in search of that body who can wipe out tears when we know We are alone.Why we always wait for a crowdy ship when we know There is just empty ship.

Why we always wish for those things which seems to be impossible.

Can't we fight alone?

Can't we make things alone?

Can't we smile alone?

Can't we walk alone?

Can't we defeat alone?

Yes ,,We can.Bcz we were born alone so that we might be able to fight alone in this blue world.

Learn to survive alone,fight alone,enjoy alone.🌸